How to “shift” from being a nag to being a skilled delegate at home!
As summer winds down, weary of having all the kids underfoot, you may be tired of nagging your family to do this or that, getting them to pick up after themselves, help out, etc. Plenty of moms and dads have a hard time getting their kids to “fall in” with the running of a household chores, and the taking care of all the things that go into the busy lives we lead. But being the Nagger-in-Chief makes you NO FUN and leaves you feeling drained and unhappy.
Here’s a brilliant solution to stop feeling like all you do is nag, nag, nag from Elizabeth Pantley, author of Kid Cooperation: How to Stop Yelling, Nagging, and Pleading and Get Kids to Cooperate.
PROBLEM: I FEEL LIKE ALL I DO IS NAG MY FAMILY TO DO WHAT I WANT.
SOLUTION: ASK THEM QUESTIONS INSTEAD TO GET THEM TO DO WHAT YOU WANT.
Place the power into the hands of your family members by asking them questions instead of nagging. Things like this:
Q: Where do dirty clothes go, James?
A: The hamper!
Q: When do we go to the potty, Ashley?
A: When I feel like I have to go!
Q: What do you say to your friend for having you over to play, Thomas?
A: Thank you!
Q: Where do your dirty cleats go, Bailey?
A: In the garage!
This one “shift” in how you handle your family will It’s also an effective strategy to use with your spouse.
No more nagging!