November is here, friends! Time for pumpkin spice everything, cozy sweaters, and of course, the forever gratitude. As a mom of three busy, healthy children, I know I have plenty to be thankful for: my family, supportive friends, and the occasional quiet time that lasts longer than 30 seconds.

But while I’m counting my blessings, I can’t help but notice a few things that make me question the manners of the younger generation. Is it too much to ask for a little courtesy? I’m not asking for handwritten thank-you notes for every snack I serve–though that would be nice–but how about holding the door open for the person following you into the building, even if they are a few steps further back, instead of letting the door slam in their face? I think my kids have seen too many superhero movies equipped with a force field and think they’re supposed to let the door do all the heavy lifting.

And let’s talk about the “please” and “thank you” phenomenon. Growing up, I was taught that these phrases are the golden tickets to a polite society. Now, I’m just trying to get my kids to say “yes” instead of rolling their eyes at me like I just randomly suggested we get an iguana or something. Is it really that difficult to add a little respect into your responses? At what point did parents stop teaching to respect your elders? I mean it’s in the 10 commandments, number 5: Honor your father and your mother. America needs to get back on track with manners and gratitude as we move forward in this next era we call life.

So, as we prepare to gobble up turkey and pumpkin pie, let’s all take a moment to reflect on what we are truly thankful for. For me, it’s my family, friends, and the hope that my kids will someday learn the fine art of door-holding and polite conversion. Maybe I’ll even set up a little manners boot camp over break–who’s in?

Happy Thanksgiving!